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How long should the bedtime routine last?
Shorter is better. For Naître et grandir, a Quebec website about child development, “a good bedtime routine is fairly short (15 to 20 minutes) and is the same from one day to the next”. Beyond that, the routine stretches out, the child negotiates, and the moment loses its soothing power. The right length is the one you can keep to every evening, without overflowing.
What is the recommended length?
The clearest reference comes from Naître et grandir: a good bedtime routine “is fairly short (15 to 20 minutes) and is the same from one day to the next”. Take that figure as a comfortable range, not a stopwatch to honour to the second.
What matters as much as the length is regularity. Naître et grandir specifies that the routine “should start at about the same time each day”. Same length, same timing: the child knows what to expect, and that is what reassures them.
Why does a routine that's too long backfire?
Because a routine that never ends sends the wrong signal. When bedtime drags on, the child quickly realises there's room to push. One more story, one more cuddle, a glass of water. And the calm moment turns into a marathon of negotiations.
Naître et grandir indeed warns about the tempo: “keep control of the time anyway, because children tend to want to delay the moment of switching off the light”. A short, well-marked routine protects this moment. It stays a cocoon, not a playground.
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Listen to the storyHow do you keep to the right length?
A few simple reflexes help you avoid overflowing, without turning bedtime into a race against the clock:
- Set the number of stories in advance, and announce it.
- Give a warning when the end is coming. Naître et grandir suggests doing so “when only 5 minutes are left”.
- Keep the same order of steps: it naturally shortens the routine.
- Stay relaxed. Naître et grandir warns: “Don't be too eager to finish the routine, because your child will sense your eagerness to put them to bed.”
An audio story can also help frame the length: it has a fixed duration, no more, no less. When it ends, it's time for lights out. A handy cue for evenings when time flies.
Questions you might be asking
What is the ideal length for the bedtime routine?
For Naître et grandir, “a good bedtime routine is fairly short (15 to 20 minutes) and is the same from one day to the next”. It's a comfortable range, not a strict rule. The important thing is that it stays doable every evening and starts at roughly the same time.
My routine lasts an hour, is that a problem?
A very long routine often opens the door to negotiations and loses its soothing power. Naître et grandir advises: “Keep control of the time anyway, because children tend to want to delay the moment of switching off the light.” Shortening and marking out the routine generally helps.
Should you time bedtime?
No need for a stopwatch. The idea is to keep a short, regular routine, not to count the seconds. A timer can help some children spot the end, as Naître et grandir suggests, but the essential thing remains a calm, predictable moment.